How to get your kids to
make their
own beds
- and thank you for it!
At last – psychologist Dr Darryl Cross reveals what every parent wants and needs to know – How to get your children to do what you want, and love you for doing it!
"There is a pathway to sanity!! The 'Parenting Plan' by Dr Cross has changed all our lives." (Jan Hanlon, grandmother & carer of 8 year old granddaughter) |
Dear Frustrated Parent,
My name is Dr Darryl Cross and in the next few minutes I will show you how to finally banish forever the stress, annoyance and heartache that happens when children of all ages kick against their parents. In the next few moments you will know exactly what to say and how to tell your children what to do, not only successfully (meaning the first time), but in a way that your children will understand and appreciate. No longer will you have to threaten, scream and shout to get something done.
You don’t need to look far to see strife between parents and their children (of all ages). It’s not new and never has been, (“How sharper than a serpent's tooth it is to have a thankless child!” – Shakespeare, King Lear). Family strife is bad at best. At worst it can utterly destroy the relationship you have with your own children and cause them to pass on this dreadful relationship to your grandchildren.
But it doesn’t have to be like this.
"I commend Dr Cross for writing this book. He gives everyday examples that I could easily understand and so very much relate to. By reading this book, it has empowered me with the tools and strategies that I can easily put into place within my own family. Thank You." Tracy Munday, mother of 7 year old |
This book has been a real blessing for hundreds and hundreds of parents. How do I know this? I'm a psychologist who has been in the profession for three decades. I've seen the program work countless times and received countless thankyous from parents. I'm also a father who has managed to raise three wonderful children who are now young adults. I can say without hesitation that if King Lear himself saw these solutions, then the play would have needed a complete re-write.
If you're not interested in how to make children behave and how to take the stress out of parenting, then, please do not read any further, this is not for you.
Without doubt, one of the major issues that presents to a clinical practice is parents wanting to know how to get their children to behave.
All in all, being a parent is hard work! It can be downright difficult.
It can take you to the "edge". It can leave you disheartened and disillusioned.
This book however, aims to take the real stress out of parenting. It has been a program that has been in development for over 15 years – and there are scores of parents who can attest to its benefits.
The book is called "Growing Up Children; How to Get 5-12 Year Olds to Behave & Do As They're Told" and is available now at US$19.95.
In this book, you will discover the following:
- Why the first 7 years in life are the most critical
- Why we are ineffective as parents
- Why we seem to say the same thing to our children day after day and nothing seems to change
- How to really get across to children
- How to find the balance in parenting
- How to set up a clear program for everyone to follow
- How to get your child to do as you ask the first time
- How to deal with aggression
- How you and your partner can agree on parenting your children
- How to improve your child's self-confidence
- How to create more family harmony and cooperation
"Darryl has provided parents and caregivers with practical information ….. He provides adults with structures on how children are behaving, and a strategy that will assist them to ensure that behavior can be planned for, and responded to, in a manner which consistently reinforces and encourages positive development in children. Parents seeking assistance will know that inconsistent expectations and ‘quick fixes’ don’t last, so Darryl outlines a strategy and ideas which are manageable over the many years of childhood. The book is easy to read, and easily shared in its e-format. Summaries at the end of each chapter enable key points to be discussed and revisited. Adults who want guidance will find the book can be applied to different parenting situations, and most importantly, will be assisted to feel more confident in making positive parenting decisions." (Gloria Hinks, former principal, Adelaide East Primary School) |
As parents. we literally "fly by the seat of our pants".
There are no training manuals that come along when our children are born.
It seems incredible that one of the most basic and important roles that sustain and underpin our whole community, that of being a parent, involves no real training or instruction at all. So, how do we do this parenting thing? Generally, we simply go by the guidelines and rules of our own parenting. But, who says that that was the best way to do it all?
Who says that our parents got it right, that that was the best way to raise kids? Sure, our parents no doubt gave it their best shot, and were well-intentioned, but who says that there wasn't another way to raise children? A different way, perhaps a better way? This book gives a tried and true way that has stood the test of time.
The sad fact is that we have had more training in how to drive a car, work a computer, use a piece of software or use a mobile phone than we have had in being a parent.
Generally speaking, we have unfortunately, also thrown out the baby with the bathwater. We have been told for example, that "thou shalt not smack", but we have NOT been told what we can do instead.
"From a lay-person's point of view, we think this book is excellent. It goes straight to the core of the main issues of child rearing. It asks all the right questions and then proceeds to answer them in a complete and practical manner. We love the way that Darryl is unequivocal in his solutions. He tells parents what is wrong not just what is right (so refreshing in these politically correct times). No euphemisms, no room for interpretation – just plain advice in plain language. Fantastic! We found this to be the tone throughout the book and this is what we think sets it apart from other "how to" and "self-help" books. Our only regret is that we didn't read it when our children were younger. We may have been able to avoid some of the stressful times." (Marina & Steve Whitham, parents of two teenagers) |
Have you also noticed how everyone seems to be an expert when it comes to child raising? It is difficult therefore, especially for new parents to work out what is good advice and what isn't. Sometimes the "babble" gets overwhelming.
Furthermore, parents come together with their own "styles" of parenting depending on their own up-bringing which may, of course, put them in conflict with each other. Maybe one parent is "soft" and the other more "hard-line". Maybe one parent was used to rules and routines, while the other parent was more used to flexibility in their family. How can two parents who come from different parenting styles and who were raised differently, come together and present a united front? This book shows how.
"Your simple methods and ideas have helped me to become a better parent. How to work with my children and not against them. Understanding the very importance of the habits and discipline we instill in them now, will create for well-balanced and respectful young adults. Thank you." Michelle Walford, mother of two children 5 and 10 years |
Why won't children just do as they are told?
The one thing that drives parents to distraction though, is children not doing as they are told….
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This book puts the whole parenting issue into perspective and gives clear guidelines and instruction on how to manage children. It sets out the basics about what you need to know about parenting and what you need to know about your children and how they "tick". It shows how to handle them. This book has been a huge benefit to parents who have read it and followed it.
It gives a very practical hands-on strategy for how to manage children and shows how to get children to do as they are told without the parent yelling at the top of their lungs or ranting and raving! It talks about the areas in the family where most of the arguments occur and shows what to do about it.
"It's been a while since I've read a parenting book packed with such sensible and practical guidance. I found this unique comparison between the two wheels of a bike and the balance that we as parents must have between 'love' and 'rules', to be very helpful. We must keep both wheels rolling, pumped and in good order to have balanced and loved children. This book is a good and easy read, I really enjoyed it." (Vanessa Wrogemann, parent of two children aged 10 and 14 years) |
Finding the balance between love and control is what produces secure and responsible children.
My own clinical observation however, says that that there are basically four major "accident" or "crash" areas in almost every family. These are the areas where most of the arguments occur, most of the yelling takes place and most of the uproar occurs.
They are:
- The Morning Routine and getting off to school (at the same time parents are usually getting off to work)
- The Evening Routine (from the time children come home from school to the time that they go to bed)
- Children getting on with each other and sharing
- Children doing as they are told
How would you like to reduce the "crashes" in these areas? A practical program is outlined to show you how.
This practical "how to" book needs to be in every home where there is a child. For US$19.95, this book can be downloaded immediately for you.
(Note that the download for this book should take only a couple of minutes after you have paid and clicked on the connection. Note too that this e-book is in an Adobe Format as a pdf file so you will need to have Adobe software in order to read it either on your computer screen, or if you wish, to read it in hard copy by printing off on your printer. If you do not already have Adobe Reader installed, you can download a copy from http://www.adobe.com/products/acrobat/readstep2.html)
"Dr Darryl Cross has considerable academic achievements and experience as a lecturer at two universities which give him academic credibility; his two decades of family counseling give him practical credibility; and his engaging manner and common sense give him credibility as a wonderful communicator. Those he has helped have asked for this book. Don't miss this opportunity to share his wisdom". (Rev Nick Hawkes, Rivergate Church) |
An extra bonus for you …
If you decide to purchase this book, then as an added extra, you are welcome to also download an additional supplement which is a special chapter that I put together called "17 Extra Hints On Raising Children". These are hints that parents have said have helped them get life in perspective. This is yours as an additional gift.
I know that his book will help you to gain control of your parenting while at the same time, it allows more harmony in the family and assists your child's self-esteem – it certainly has for countless others. Blessings.
Dr Darryl Cross
PS. Don't forget to download your free bonus booklet titled, "17 Hints in Dealing with Children".